July 14 is not only Bastille Day in France, but it is also International Nonbinary People's Day, which takes place tomorrow. It was chosen as July 14 because it's the exact midpoint between International Women's Day and International Men's Day. It was created to raise global awareness about nonbinary people, but it begs an essential question: what in the world is nonbinary?
Every commemorative day celebrates an identifiable group of people. Veterans Day celebrates veterans. International Women's Day celebrates women. Before celebrating a category, it is reasonable to ask what distinguishes its members from everyone else. That is a surprisingly difficult question to answer when it comes to nonbinary people.
Nonbinary: The Identity That Means Everything and Nothing
Most organizations and nonbinary individuals define nonbinary in roughly the same way: someone whose gender identity is not exclusively male or exclusively female. At first glance, that sounds straightforward enough. But after further examination, it doesn't answer the question because then there is the follow-up question of "What does that look like?"
Depending on who you ask, being nonbinary can be a range of things, whether that is identifying as both male and female, neither male nor female, something in between, outside the gender binary altogether, gender-fluid, or possessing multiple genders. These descriptions point in dramatically different directions. Instead of identifying a single, distinguishable category, "nonbinary" appears to function as an umbrella term for a wide variety of subjective experiences.
That in itself presents a conceptual problem. Categories exist to distinguish one thing from another. The category of "veteran" distinguishes those who have served in the military from those who have not. The category of "citizen" distinguishes between those who possess a particular legal status from those who do not.
But what distinguishes a nonbinary person from a man or woman who simply rejects traditional gender stereotypes? If the answer comes down to subjective self-identification, then the category has no ascertainable membership criteria. It tells us only what someone calls themselves, not what distinguishes them from everyone else. That "definition" offers no independent criteria by which anyone can distinguish between a nonbinary person from an ordinary variation between men and women. As such, the category of "nonbinary" has no meaningful limiting principle.
The "Because I Say So" Problem: A Definition That Defines Itself
The problem becomes even more obvious when one asks a self-identifying nonbinary individual how they know they are nonbinary. The answer is usually with some form of "Because that's how I identify." But identify with what? Again, the most common definition is someone whose gender identify is neither exclusively male nor female. It is not descriptive because it does not answer the question of what gender is in this framework.
If a man is defined as someone who identifies as a man, if a woman is someone who identifies as a woman, and a nonbinary person is defined as someone who identifies as nonbinary, the explanation becomes circular. If gender is not biological sex, personality, clothing, interests, or gender stereotypes, then what positive characteristics remain? The definition tells us who identifies, but it provides zero insight into what they are identifying with. Instead of pointing to an independently recognizable characteristic, the label appears to refer only to itself.
At this point, I can see someone objecting to this description of nonbinary by saying that many identities involve self-identification. After all, no one can peer into another person's mind to determine whether they are truly a Christian, a Democrat, or homosexual. But those identities refer to something beyond the declaration itself.
Biological sex refers to observable biological characteristics. Sexual orientation describes enduring patters of romantic or sexual attraction. Religion encompasses identifiable belief and practices that exist independently of merely claiming the label. While each of these identities contains subjective elements, they also refer to concepts that can be understood apart from self-identification.
Nonbinary is different. Since the only criterion for membership is declaring oneself to be nonbinary, then the declaration is not merely evidence of the identity; it is the identity. The category then becomes self-referential, which makes it impossible to distinguish between the label and the thing the label is supposed to describe. That may suffice for personal self-expression, but it does not provide a foundation for a category, certainly one that is supposed to have an international day of recognition and observance.
Everyone Is Different, and....?
Even if we wanted to set aside the definitional problems with nonbinary, there is another problem: the characteristics often associated with nonbinary identity are not unique to nonbinary people. Human beings have always varied in personality, interests, appearance, and behavior. Some men are more traditionally masculine, while others are more traditionally feminine.
This is especially true when looking at gay men and lesbians. For gay men, there is everything from the muscle gays and jocks to the fem boy, and everything in between. Lesbians range on the femininity spectrum from lipstick lesbian to being butch. One of the contributions of the gay rights movement was challenging the idea that a man must conform to a narrow definition of masculinity or that a woman must conform to a narrow definition of femininity.
Men who are less masculine are still men, and women who are less feminine are still women. That does not mean that they are this third category. If nonbinary identity is based on not fitting neatly into traditional gender norms, then it risks treating ordinary human diversity as evidence of a separate identity category. A category that encompasses anyone who does perfectly conform to gender stereotypes, which is almost everybody, ultimately ceases to distinguish between anything meaningful.
The vast majority of people experience themselves differently from some idealized form of gender norms and expectations. Since there are no criteria that separate nonbinary people from men and women who share those same traits, the category has no clear boundary. Without clear boundaries, the category of nonbinary is meaningless because virtually anyone can qualify simply by interpreting their own relationship with gender in a particular way. A description that includes just about everyone who feels different in some way ceases to be a category at all.
So What Is Being Celebrated?
A meaningful category should tell us who belongs, what members have in common, and how they differ from everyone else. Yet nonbinary lacks a clear definition, objective membership criteria, and distinguishing characteristics beyond self-identification. If a category can include almost anyone who feels different from traditional gender expectations, then it is not a distinct group of people. Since there is no clear defined group of people to celebrate, what does Nonbinary Day celebrate exactly?
It seems like it is one of the first awareness days in human history for a group of people who cannot explain who is in the group. In short, it is the culmination of coddling every subjective experience simply because someone says "it's my lived experience" and of the Participation Trophy mindset. When words no longer describe anything beyond what someone says they describe, categories themselves lose their purpose. It is a death knell of words having any meaning.


